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ValuesVenture is an approach to values formation through small-scale social ventures.
It can be described as a continuum of values-driven activities and independent youth action projects.
As a collaborative and experiential learning program,
ValuesVenture focuses on online ventures with real world impact to create an applied contect for reflective engagement with values,
leading to their deeper appreciation and positive influence in decision-making
My son, if sinners entice you,
do not consent.
If they say, “Come with us, let us lie in wait for blood;
let us ambush the innocent without reason;
like Sheol let us swallow them alive,
and whole, like those who go down to the pit;
we shall find all precious goods,
we shall fill our houses with plunder;
throw in your lot among us;
we will all have one purse”—
my son, do not walk in the way with them;
hold back your foot from their paths,
for their feet run to evil,
and they make haste to shed blood.
For in vain is a net spread
in the sight of any bird,
but these men lie in wait for their own blood;
they set an ambush for their own lives.
Such are the ways of everyone who is greedy for unjust gain;
it takes away the life of its possessors.
Loves,xinfang=D
you will sure hate it . . jus believe or not you'll will surely regret..hahs!!
Faith here .
adapted from http://www.asiaone.com/News/Education/Story/A1Story20081022-95560.html
Teens and dating
By Ruth Liew
DATING teens need to know the code of conduct involved in a relationship.
My friend's 13-year-old son has a girlfriend. Many would think he is too young to be dating. It is natural for a child to be interested in someone of the opposite sex as a friend.
Teens are curious about relationships. They want to know about dating and boy-girl relationships. As they are developing sexually, they are naturally interested to know what it is like to be intimate with another person.
The teenage years is a time of self-awareness. They build up self-confidence and learn to interact with others in a more mature manner.
In relationships, teens learn to be assertive as well as to make decisions. This is the stage of learning about respect and responsibilities.
Many young teens get into social experimentation without much preparation. Unfortunately, they are bombarded by negative ideas from the media. They pick up ideas about dating from movies and romantic novels. Many have distorted facts about what they do when they date.
Parents must be prepared to talk to their teens about dating and relationships. It is not the time to say "don't" but to use more "dos".
Teens are at the age when they will try to do their own thing. The more they are controlled by parental rules, the more they will step out of the boundaries.
They are at the transition stage from immaturity to maturity. They can act independently, yet they still lack experience and knowledge of the world.
Parents need to provide them with balance and perspective. They should help their teens to be grown-ups by initiating them into adulthood.
Parents are children's best role-models. Your relationship with your spouse has to be a positive example for your child to follow. Show them how you respect one another and work things out as equal partners.
Your actions speak louder than words. Empower your teens to think for themselves and follow their instincts. Instead of telling them repeatedly what they should or should not do, help them develop judgment to enable them to do the right thing.
Take time to listen to your teen tell you about his concerns and insecurities. Don't be too quick to offer your opinions but help him explore various solutions based on his values.
Keep an open mind when your teenager talks to you about sex. Talk about the consequences of certain decisions and evaluate situations that others have found themselves in.
Share your ideas and values in discussions. Find out what your teen thinks about the consequences that befall those who act irresponsibly and recklessly. Your teen will learn to weigh the pros and cons from these conversations with you.
Parents fare better when they can discuss the topic of sex without any bias. One teacher conveyed her fears that children may experiment with sex when we talk about personal safety and sexuality.
But I am more concerned when parents and teachers do not help children understand their sexuality by giving them the correct facts. They may experiment with ideas they pick up from the Internet and other forms of media.
Boys need to know that having sex does not turn them into men, while girls need to know that having sex is not cool under duress. Going dating calls for respect for the other person and being responsible enough to behave appropriately.
If teens are dating, they need to know the code of conduct for being in a relationship.
Set ground rules on dating. Stand firm on what is right. State clearly your expectations and listen to what your teen has to say.
If the rules are set by both parent and child, chances are, your teen will abide by them. Be willing to negotiate and discuss things over with your child. The idea of dating is about learning more about the other person and sharing happy moments together.
Discuss ways your child can have his privacy when he is able to keep to the ground rules responsibly. Parents need to be kept informed of the goings-on in their children's lives. Offer to host group dates at home so you can get to know your child's friends better.
consequences that BGR may lead:
A boy can make you pregnant and give you venereal diseases. He can also hurt your feeling. It is natural to be careful. Wait until you meet a boy you can trust in every respect.
Some boys do not take love seriously.we must not love the boy too much or not when it is time to let go we cannot take it.my advice is do not give false hope to boys.do not have a bf at such a young age concentrate on your studies.
adapted from http://www.web4health.info/eu/kom/120405
LYdia
Today topic is on Boy-girl relationships!
Why are boy-girl relationships not advisable at a young age?
Taken from (www.lavistachurchofchrist.org/LVanswers/2004/2004-04-03.htm)
Youth is a time of impatient desires. They want the things available to adults, but adulthood seems so far away. The typical teenage boy enters puberty around the age of 11. The typical teenage girl enters puberty around the age of 10. Two to three years later these teens gain the ability to have sexual intercourse, yet the average for marriage has been gradually delayed to about the age of 27. Few teenagers are inclined to wait nearly twice their current age before experiencing sex. But sexual intercourse is only permitted within marriage (Hebrews 13:4).
There are several good reasons to wait before building a relationship with someone of the opposite sex. First, there is a need to wait for your body to mature. The typical teenage boy takes eight to ten years to fully develop. The typical teenage girl takes six years to mature. As you mature, the things that you like and dislike change. Frequently children will only eat limited foods, but a young adult is more adventurous and is willing to try new things. These changes affect more things than just food choices. The things you will find desirable in a mate will change over the years. Rather than tying yourself down to one choice early in life, it is better to wait until you mature enough to know your desires. You need to know who you are and what you want before you engage in a life-long commitment.
Second, there is a need to be able to resist temptation. Young people are not necessarily good at accessing risks. For young men, it is one of the last functions to develop in their brains. This is why auto-insurance for men remain high until age 25. Men tend to take risks and not consider the consequences. When a young couple form a relationship early in life, they are faced with a strong temptation to experiment with sexual intercourse. Since they are not fully capable of accessing the risks, they may engage in sex without fully appreciating the likely consequences of their action. This is why Paul warned, "Flee youthful lusts" (II Timothy 2:22). It is not that lusts only tempt the young. It is the problem of a lack of experience with lusts that make young people victims of Satan's schemes.
Third, it requires some maturity to distinguish infatuation from true love. Every teenager believes they are in love at some point. It doesn't matter what anyone says, this is the one and only relationship. Yet, those teenage romances almost never last. The young person mistakes the rising hormones for love. But the Bible teaches us that love has nothing to do with sexual desires. "Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails." (I Corinthians 13:4-8). Notice the last point especially. True love doesn't die out over time. True love lasts because it is a choice and not a hormone driven desire.
Fourth, few young people are in the position to take responsibility for their actions. If teenagers engage in sex and a child is produced, who will see that the baby is feed and clothed? Who will teach him proper behavior if his parents are little more than children themselves?
Love will eventually come, but we shouldn't rush events. "Be happy, young man, while you are young, and let your heart give you joy in the days of your youth. Follow the ways of your heart and whatever your eyes see, but know that for all these things God will bring you to judgment. So then, banish anxiety from your heart and cast off the troubles of your body, for youth and vigor are meaningless" (Ecclesiastes 11:9-10). Our youth should be a time of carefree joy. Adulthood and its responsibilities come far too soon, so enjoy your youth and do not borrow future trouble.
That all for today!:D Hope your enjoy!
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loves, XinFang:D
continueing from yesterday , broken relationships .
what can i do if i face a broken relationship ?
Below are my 3 ways of doing it, not PHD study, social science or scientific method.
- Take time to cool down your emotion. We are all human. Healing takes time. You can write out your thoughts and feeling on a piece of paper and then tear it away after that. If you are typing into the computer, just delete the file and empty the recycle bin if you want to, or don't save it. Or you can chat with you good friends, or, post into this forum? Maybe. But just remember, time can help in healing. It may not be possible at the time, but trust me, or should say trust the fact, it eventually will.
- Handle your emotion wisely. Emotional hurt will lead to mental torture, which at times could be more painful than physical torture. Most of us would release our emotion by taking alcohol, smoking, go wild, over eat, spending money, fighting or even do things that we don't even know what we are doing! This could be bad.
If it is too hard to handle your emotion, I have this concept which may help and I called it "Use physical power to strengthen the brain power, and then use brain power to heal emotional hurt" You see, because of emotion, your brain power becomes weak. You cannot think straight, or should I say, you will think "any oh how". Your brain is weak but not tired. That is why you keep thinking "any oh how". Since your brain is weak, you cannot use your will power. You need to relax your brain, divert your brain's attention or make it tired, so that it will rest and get strong again. Then your will power or brain power will come back and you are in more control.
To do that, you can go for jogging or exercise. Use up all your physical energy during each exercise, so that you become physically tired and go to sleep. Sleeping well is the essence of having a stronger mental. Doing exercise will also make you fitter and look better…….. so that at least you become more attractive, physically…...
Other than exercise, you can watch a comedy show, which you don't have to think, and just laugh it out. That will lighten your mind. And while you are watching the show, you are actually resting physically. Your brain's attention is also diverted from the "any oh how" thinking. After all, laughter is the best medicine.
Some may suggest to use work to make yourself tired……………..it depends on what kind of work. It is ok if it is physical work. If it is office work, then it may not be so effective because your brain is still weak. Once you stop work, the "any oh how" thinking will come back again.
Remember, you need a fresh mind to handle your emotion wisely. - Find meaning to your life. Do something meaningful, learn a new skill or do more reading. Do what you want to do but have not done yet. Help some people who need help. Don't waste your time away. The earth will not stop turning when you have a broken relationship. There are other people who care about you and need you. Be proactive. You only have a broken relationship, and relationship is only part of one's life. It should not be everything. If it meant everything to you, than it could mean that it was a mistake………….. Because it cannot be everything. Boy-Girl Relationship is only part of life.
Last but not least, Dare to LOVE and Dare to face the result of LOVE….. It doesn't matter whether you failed this time or how much time, effort, money you have put in. "All that is not given will be lost." - cannot remember who said that, sorry…………………. :)
source:http://www.i-open-house.com/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=54&
faith here{again?!}
another consequence of having BGR , is that if that person is not the right one for you ,
we'll have broken relationships .
Here are 3 dont's after a broken relationship .
- Don't Blame the others. Why? Because when you start blaming the others, you will not be able to look into yourself and learn your mistakes. Can you look at yourself when you are staring at another person? Recognise the other's fault and also your own fault. It cannot be no fault in you. It is only that you haven't recognise your fault.
- Don't Blame yourself. Why? Because we are all imperfect. Blaming yourself will not help. But learning more about ourselves and work towards to be a better person will. Remember, no one can change you unless you change yourself. Then when your next relationship comes along, it will be more successful because you are a better person to handle the new relationship. Don't do stupid things to harm yourself or give up on yourself. Why? Because you have already lost a relationship, why do you still want to lose yourself?
- Don't Go straight into a new relationship after your previous relationship because of loneliness. Why? Because the result of the new relationship could also ended up broken. Why? Because you have not overcome the independence needed in a boy-girl relationship. You may feel the emptiness after a broken relationship and wanted to look for someone to fill up the "hole". You should be looking for a partner, soul mate or companionship…… not a loneliness "filler". In all relationship, there is always some loneliness that we have to handle. If you cannot handle now, then your next relationship may still get into trouble because you cannot handle loneliness. Take your time and look around. Relationship is quite unforeseeable. When it comes, you would not be able to avoid it. When you are looking for it, it just won't come……just take it naturally.
I understand that after a broke off, you will start to think about the past. Why? Naturally, we human only treasure or missed something when it is gone. Other than thinking about the past, your feeling will be sensitive. You will also keep thinking what went wrong, what happened and etc. I called it mental torture or "digging into the snail's shell" - means no way out.
source :http://www.i-open-house.com/forum/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=54&
Jolene here!!!
a little short intro to me...
my CCA is GB
Faith2-2
When i got my PSLE results two years ago , never expected myself to study in GMSS.
GMSS is really a wonderful school to study and learn new things in.
also its where i got to know GOD.
at first i don't really believe there is a GOD but after what i have gone in school life, GB, drill competition, i truly believe that GOD is really there to support and give us strength.
Also i believe that we are really special to GOD. Thats why GOD is here to support and give us strength.
So no matter what happens i know that GOD is there for me.
we decided to do our valuesventure theme to boygirl relationship .
what are the consequences og a broken boygirl relationship ?
one of it is having underage sex .
here is a real-life story .
By Teh Joo Lin and Kimberly Spykerman
SEX makes babies - that was all the girl said she knew about sex when she was 11 years old, the age at which she lost her virginity.Now 13, she recounted matter-of-factly how she met her first boyfriend on the social networking site Friendster last year
They started exchanging messages before taking their online relationship offline, going out in groups with other people they knew from the Internet.ABOUT THE CASE
THE girl was only 11 when she had sex with her 16-year-old boyfriend in her flat last year. They had met on the social networking site, Friendster.The pair had sex again on a staircase landing of a nearby HDB block around the same period of time.The boy, now 17, was arrested and charged with having sex with an underage girl - defined under the law as being under the age of 16.
Don't let children lose themselves in virtual world
The Straits Times runs the girl's answers past clinical psychologist Carol Balhetchet, who is the director for youth services of the Singapore Children's Society
The girl said she thought that after having sex with the boy, the relationship would last. Do girls her age normally think like this?This is very typical behaviour for a young girl with an older boy.At her age, she could not have processed the risks and consequences of sex.She would only be able to focus on her need to hang on to the relationship and see what she did as an investment.
story from :http://news.asiaone.com/News/the+Straits+Times/Story/A1Story20081218-108645.htmlFAITH[♥]
Goh Xin Fang
Thirteen
8 April
Single
GOD!(L)
GMSS
Faith 1-1
Actually when i gotten my psle results last year,
I have never thought of going into GMSS.But in
end ,i have no choice but to choose GMSS.
Now that i am already in GMSS,i never regret.
And i choose the same CCA as primary
school ,which is Girls' Brigade!
faith here . my ccas are gb and choir .
im not a very popular girl in school , as many people in school dont like me .
and im always made use of , people be nice to me when they need something
then they'll be super mean to me after that .
once , i was being shunned away by people .
they talked about me on the blog and stuff ,
but everything changed when i was in the drill competition team .
when the team just formed up , we were very distant as most of us were from different primary school .
then we started training together . we had bonding time and games during drill .
we got to know each other better , slowly we spent time together during recess and lunch .
we were like very close sisters .
my mom forbidded me from going to GB and choir and drill practices
because of my bad results . and i cried alot , because im very attached to my cca-s .
and i refused to talk to anyone , and the competition was nearing .
but my friends and senior ncos told me to behave and do well in my studies
and not to get distracted by drill competition and not study .
and the blog incident that i was in that i was said alot of bad things about ,
my senior ncos told me to ignore it .
they helped me get over it .
i really thank god for them , and even though i missed that one precious week of drill
we gotten a gold during the competition , when we wanted to get the challenge shield so much .
but we also realised that the awards wont last ,
but the friendship and fun that will last .
FAITH[♥]
This is the first time i took part in a drill competition O.O
though our contingent didn't get the Challenge Shield , but it's through this competition , that let our contingent to be bonded & also made me loves drill even more . At first , i thought that being in secondary school gb will be very boring as i don't have much friends who joined gb ):
but now , i love gb like i dontknow what :D !
i can't wait for gb meetings nowadays :]]
-TRENNA [♥]
Loves, xinfang!:D Yay! Our blog is going to be done soon!It is going to be a success!I am going to tell you more about me!I am XinFang from GB 2nd coy, my birthday is on the 8 of April.Although i just got into secondary school, i get to take part in the national drill competition,feeling very blessed!:D Therefore,i got more opportunities to know more about GB ,the officers ,NCOs and the secondary 2 GB girls.The officers,NCOs and GB girls were more caring than what i thought. Through those training days, we would sit down together in the GB room and polish our boots together and we will also chat.As the days of training get longer,people can actually tell that our relationships between the contingent is getting better then when the first day we met each other. After lots of training(which i thought is fun!),the day finally came!We were all attentively ,rushing to get our last push before the competition.After that,we get our uniforms on neatly and off we went to the competition avenue. We were nervous through-out the competition but we know that GOD will eventually help us and without fear,we have gotten GOLD!And last but not least,we give thanks to the LORD for everything! PRAISE THE LORD!
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though it's kinda empty , please come back and view it whenever you can .
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thankyou !
-FAITH!
THE DIVA-S
TRENNA !
Third teen , 31dec . single
(L) gan stead & sisters
GMSS ; F1-5
Girls'Brigade 2nd coy♥!
FAITH !
Four teen , 26oct . single
(L) PINK
GMS(P) ; 6JOY
GMSS ; F2-2
Girls'Brigade 2nd coy♥!
LYDIA !
Third teen , 18jul . single
(L) nothing -.-
GMSS ; H1-2
Girls'Brigade 2nd coy♥!
XINFANG !
Thir teen , 8apr . single
(L) GOD!
GMS(P) ; 6
GMSS ; F1-1
Girls'Brigade 2nd coy♥!
JOLENE !
Four teen , 2feb . single
(L) GOD!
GMSS ; F2-2
Girls'Brigade 2nd coy
- Loves to sleep & was assigned to a beautiful dream , a rich taitai dream.{trenna}
- Loves to talk!{trenna}
- Loves to go GB!{trenna}
- Loves pink stuff!{faith}
- Loves facebook!{faith}
- Loves blogging!{faith}
- Loves going crazy!{faith}
- Loves nothin!{lydia} - Loves drill!{everyone}
- Hates to do projects.
- Hates to be alone.
- Hates someone who hurt me.
Pink FBT ♥{trenna} White FBT ♥{trenna} Purple FBT ♥{trenna} Silver FBT ♥{trenna} Geek specs ♥{trenna} iPod nano ♥{faith} pink hair extensions ♥{faith} pink laptop ♥{faith}
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